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Making Plans
March 30, 2007 |
Plans have a way of getting tossed out the window on contact with Thailand. That is, I never seem to bother much with them. But I do have sort of a loose idea on what I want to do when I am there. And I somehow manage to stick with that.
I have always been a dreamer though. And life really is what happens while you have other plans. And since first contact with Thailand I have wanted to stay there permanently. But that is not going to happen very soon. My financial situation simply does not allow it, I will have to work. And it’s not so likely that I will find something resembling that in Thailand.
But what I can do is setting up base there. Somewhere to return to between jobs. A safe haven where I have someone to return to. Part of the reason I really hope this thing I have with Nan is going to work out is that I want to find a place in Isaan, and little by little create a life for myself there.
This is not some spur of the moment thing. It has been growing on me for months now. And it is now that I have the chance to do something like this, as I have no attachments to anything really in my home country.
I have 3 more trips to Thailand before September, when I finish off here in South Asia. So will spend the time I have there scouting about in Isaan for a place. Nan knows nothing about these plans though, as I feel it is a bit early to spring them on her at this stage in hour relationship.
I will eventually try to make her understand that this is what I want though. And she was happy when I suggested that my June trip, I wanted to stay in Isaan with her, and not go to any of the tourist traps at all. But That I wanted to hire a car and fart about in Isaan with her instead. That is basically how far into the future we have talked about things.
I will try to make her see that if she is for real, then so am I. I will take it slow at first though. The plan such as it is, is to try and rent a place for 6-12 months. And have Nan move in if our relationship survives until mid September. (I am quite optimistic about that). Then I will spend a few months living with her, and really get to know her.
If in the end it really does not work out. Well, I will not have to wonder for the rest of my life if I could do it, and regret that I did not have a go at it.
My friends think I am insane anyway, and my family gave up years ago trying to conform to their idea of a successful life, so they will support me no matter what I do.
And this is really something I can make work. As long as I keep working the way I do. And the job market in my profession is extremely good. But that is also the achilles heel, relationship wise. I will have to work outside Thailand. Leaving her behind for long periods of time. And that is why I can not take her to my home country as well. If I take her away from her family and everything she knows, just to leave her to go working in Africa, Middle east or Asia for months at a time. it simply would not be fair to her.
So this is the best I can come up with. Just have to make it work, that is all.
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Will
Maybe it will be possible to have her travel with you? That way your home can be where ever you are…
That is a thing to be considered, but will have to get our relationship really started first
Anyway, with us farting about in Isaan and perhaps later in the rest of Thailand, I’ll get an idea how well she travels
But to be realistic. Most of the places I work, famillies are not allowed due to security concerns. I could of course look for gigs in more secure locations, but I have not been long enough in the system to pick and choose where they send me.
Interesting. Will I have been feeling the same way about moving to Thailand. However I realize Im not some intelict so the job market isint so well for me.Like you,I am finding my self latching onto a “Special Someone” Ive spent 3 weeks straight in Isaan,I gotta say I was starting to feel isolated,not to much english going on there.
I have found from talking to some woman in Isaan who have farang Husbands,they dont mind them leaving for a few months at a time as long as the money keeps rolling in, not much differant than American woman or any others for that matter I expect. Im going back to Korat in May for 3 weeks, I hope I last, one of my friends from work just built a house for him and his wife in Jom Tieng, LOL Im afraid when I visit him I’ll fall into that Pattaya thing again, maybe Im hoping,I dont know.Funny you and me have another common thread, I am also looking for work in Africa.I hear it pays real well and….well the danger factor……really gets the juices flowin,LOL.
Go for it Dago. And you don’t need much intelect for the kind of work I am doing. That I am doing it, is proof enough for that…lol